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The Do’s And Don’ts When Considering Separation Before Divorce


Perhaps you aren’t ready to file for divorce just yet but you and your spouse think that separating for a few months might be a healthy start to repairing your relationship or helping you decide if divorce is the right thing to do. If you plan on separating for a few months, Forbes has highlighted a few do’s and don’ts and we are sharing these below with you.

  1. Do get up to speed on marital finances. If you weren’t handling the finances in your relationship and are completely “out of the loop,” you likely won’t know how much your spouse was making, spending, or investing. Take the time to get caught up on what bills were acquired along with how much has been saved especially if you think divorce is in the near future and you will be splitting your assets.
  2. Do begin obtaining credit cards in your own name. If you currently don’t have any credit cards in your own name, now would be a good time to get some to help build your credit. “Good credit is the foundation of your financial well-being as a single” individual.
  3. Begin closing joint credit card accounts. If you don’t want to be held responsible for unpaid credit card bills as this sometimes happens when a divorce arises, begin closing out accounts so that more money can’t be spent on a card with your name attached to it.
  4. Do protect yourself and hire a divorce attorney. One thing a divorce lawyer can help do is draw up a separation agreement that “spells out the terms under which you will live apart while still legally married.”

Some things you might want to avoid doing during the time you separate but are still legally married include:

  1. Don’t get into a new relationship. Remember, nothing has been established just yet, no child custody, child support, or alimony agreements and you don’t want to jeopardize any of it by rushing into a new relationship.
  2. Don’t overspend. Although you may want to treat yourself as this can sometimes help us when we go through traumatic and life-changing experiences, if you do wind up divorcing and you went on a spending spree, you could be accused of “dissipating assets.”
  3. Don’t overshare on social media. Social media has become an outlet for many to voice their concerns, feelings, and thoughts. But, your separation is “a time for absolute discretion.” If you need to vent, perhaps speaking with close friends and family would allow you to keep your business private but also receive support at the same time.

As mentioned, it can be extremely beneficial for you to hire a divorce lawyer when considering divorce as they can provide you with exclusive information you may need to know. The Webster Groves, MO divorce attorneys at the Behrens Law Firm, LLC can help you at any stage of the divorce process, whether it is during the initial stages of your divorce or if you have already submitted the paperwork. They are available to answer your questions and offer free case evaluations to those who aren’t sure if they need to enlist the help of an attorney. If you would like to take advantage of a free consultation, call the Behrens Law Firm, LLC now at 314-786-3263.

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